McCartney, but if you’d asked me years ago, I would’ve said Lennon with such ferocity that your head would’ve spun around.
my writing sucked tonight. Should I try again tomorrow?
Being an ally is not an identity; it’s a process. It isn’t easy, or painless. Allies have an obligation to learn, to seek out understanding; to follow the examples of the people whose experiences we want to respect; to stand back and listen to their voices.
Along the way we will make mistakes, and it falls on all of us to understand that about each other. We are all flawed. We are all imperfect. There is no such thing as a perfect ally.
Sigmund Freud, Analyze This
I am far more amused than I should be that the first two tracks of Madonna’s new album are apparently called “Unapologetic Bitch” and “Bitch, I’m Madonna.” Jealousy and the sudden realization that you’re entirely outside of the zeitgeist, thy name is Madge.
I took the concept of “home” for granted for a long time. I thought it was a place, a constant, a given. I never understood, until things changed, that “home” was something my parents actively built around me, all the time – a construction, a collection of comforting samenesses, a privilege. The fact that I got to have a dad at all – let alone such a marvellous, funny, devoted one – is among the luckiest coincidences of my life. And for months after he died, I didn’t understand what happened next. My home was dead too, I thought. My family was broken.