How to Be a Guy — MEL Magazine
I’m writing a new, monthly column for MEL Magazine! It’s somewhere between social deconstruction and personal cartography: interacting with manhood, masculinity, and gendered spaces through a trans lens.
This is a weird one for me. On one hand: I’m really excited about this column. I’ve been wanting to write this column for a long time now. My editor is amazing and tremendously supportive; and MEL is a publication I’m really excited to be part of.
On the other hand: Over the last few years I’ve built up a lot of weird and obsessive rules about what I write about and, more, how visible I’m allowed to be in my own work. They’re not rational rules, but they’ve very much become a security blanket I cling to in the uncomfortable process of navigating public visibility as a private person.
“How to Be a Guy” breaks pretty much all of those rules.
And while I know those rules weren’t healthy, and that moving away from them is good for me as both a writer and a human, it is goddamn free-fall terrifying.
Very excited to read all future installments of this column, and not just because Jay’s one hell of a writer (which, y’know, is true). This is the crossover of a bunch of fascinating topics – masculinity, personal identity, gender as a whole – handled by one of the smartest folk I know who navigates these waters on a regular basis. In the unlikely chance that you’ve not already checked this out, you should.